I think about you a lot, for many reasons, and lately with special regard to what I’ve heard about the bullying challenges you’re facing at school. I imagine it’s not easy, and I want you to know that it takes real strength to deal with what you’re going through. It’s okay to feel hurt or frustrated when people are mean, but I want to share some thoughts that might help you navigate through this tough time.
At your age, you’re probably starting to think a lot about what you want to be when you grow up. That’s great, and I want to encourage you to explore that deeply, but I also want to encourage you to think about who you want to be—the kind of person you aspire to become. The qualities we admire in others and see in our favorite story characters—bravery, strength, kindness, even the ability to love—aren't just innate traits. They're choices we make daily, requiring consistent effort.
Bravery and courage might seem like natural gifts some people have, but that's not the case. These qualities are like muscles; they grow stronger with use. If you want to be strong in heart and in character, you must work at it, just as you do with your quarterback skills.
Our stories often condense months of relentless effort into brief montages, making it easy to overlook the real work required to overcome challenges. In reality, perseverance takes time and diligent effort.
Remember, what we focus on becomes part of us. You can think of your mind as a house you're building. The thoughts you choose and actions you take are your building materials. When you face negativity with resilience or push forward through challenges, you're adding another solid piece to your foundation. Meanwhile, dwelling on negative emotions is like using bad lumber - it can compromise your structure. With each positive choice, you're constructing a sturdy inner self that can withstand any storm life throws your way. Every time you choose not to let others bring you down, you're building inner strength. It's not always easy, but it's worth the effort.
Bullies might try to make you feel small out of jealousy, immaturity, or their own struggles, or because that’s all they’ve learned from their parent’s abusive example. They may see something in you that they lack—talent, potential, or kindness. But you don’t have to let their words define your day or your mood. You always have the power to decide how you'll react and who you want to be. Each day is an opportunity to work towards becoming that person.
Now, I don’t know much about football, but my understanding is that being a quarterback is not just about throwing a ball or football strategy. It’s also about being a leader. Leadership isn't something that falls into one's lap either; it's built, cultivated, and developed. It requires winning the respect and loyalty of others, sometimes even those who were initially against us. And if we manage to win that respect after due diligence, well, that is sure to be true loyalty.
There's also incredible strength in being open about your experiences. Sharing with people you trust—parents, teachers, coaches, or friends—can help in unexpected ways. When we open up, we often find we're not alone, and it can create deeper connections.
Being vulnerable might feel scary, but it's a sign of courage. It shows you're strong enough to face problems head-on and seek support when needed. Remember, asking for help isn't weakness—it's wisdom. By sharing, you're not only helping yourself but potentially inspiring others to open up too.
I'll be honest—being open like this is something I struggle with too. I often wonder about the right time to share, who to confide in, whether they'll even care, or perhaps think less of me. It's absurd! I know better, and so do you. Maybe we can both work on being more open and share our progress with each other?
Levi, I believe in you. I know you have what it takes to grow into someone strong not just on the field, but in life. Keep focusing on who you want to be, and remember you're not alone. We're all here to support you.
Stay strong, and don't hesitate to reach out when you need help. You'll get through this and come out even stronger on the other side.
Love,
Kyle