Why resolutions fail: Most people try to change their actions (grinding, discipline) without changing their identity. If you don't change who you are, you will eventually revert to your old ways.
1. Identity Precedes Outcome
You don't get what you want; you get who you are. A healthy person doesn't "grind" to eat well; they just enjoy eating well. To change your life, you must adopt the lifestyle of your ideal self now, not after you reach the goal.
2. Your Failures Are Intentional (Subconsciously)
You are exactly where you are because, on some level, you want to be there. Procrastination and staying in a dead-end job often serve hidden goals: safety, comfort, or avoiding judgment. You must realize you are choosing your current life to feel safe.
3. Intelligence is "Steering"
Success isn't about being smart; it's about "Cybernetics" (steering).
To fix your life, set aside one full day to complete this three-part process.
Time needed: 30–60 minutes.
Sit with a pen and paper. Do not use AI. Answer these questions to create an Anti-Vision (what you hate) and a Vision (what you want).
The Pain (Anti-Vision):